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"This small shift can lower stress for both you and your child and help them feel more capable in the process"
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We’re back! After pressing pause for the summer, Parenting REdefined newsletters are here again. I’ve missed sharing ideas with you. As the seasons shift and routines start to change, it feels like the perfect time to reconnect and share some tools for this transition.
This time of year can bring a mix of emotions for parents and kids (young and grown!): worry, chaos, uncertainty, and excitement, all wrapped into one.
As parents, most of us have the tendency to talk a lot through these times. We have our own worries and pointers that we want to make sure our kids hear before they go off on their own. But one thing that is almost always true during transitions is this: less is more.
Why This Matters
- Too many words can overwhelm your child’s brain and body.
- When their nervous system is already on high alert, extra talking makes it harder to take in information.
- When they don’t respond, we often feel more frustrated and we end up talking even more to convince them to listen!!
- This creates a loop that leaves everyone feeling worse.
đź’ˇ Parenting REdefined Trick:
- Talk less - use less words. Make your words very concise.
- Slow down your speech - just by slowing down, you will have less words you can fit into a period of time. This is a good thing!
- Be mindful of how many requests/demands you are giving in a period of time. Do one at a time, if possible.
- Write it out more than talk it out - try putting one task on one post it note to give a task that feels achievable to the child
This small shift can lower stress for both you and your child and help them feel more capable in the process.
It may seem very simple but it is actually one of the hardest skills to remember.
In Parenting REdefined, SIMPLE does not always equal EASY
NORIKO'S NOTES: sharing my life's simple joysđź’ś
I've miss you all and I have so much to share but I'll try to keep it short.
I had the most amazing July; from celebrating my birthday (always with pool and fireworks!) to traveling to Thailand and the Philippines with my family. My son, Jake, played in a hockey tournament in Thailand representing (one of his) countries, the Philippines! Philippines Eagles took 3rd place against other Asian countries. The Queen of Thailand attended the final game; she is also a hockey player which is why this was named the Queens Cup! Emma had her own new experiences as well; zipping around on what is basically a motorcycle uber around town by herself and getting to know her Filipino cousins she hadn't met before! It was quite the experience. I ate a lot of durian...I LOVE durian. We then traveled on to the Philippines to visit more relatives we got to meet for the first time and tour around the beautiful islands. I got two snacks taken from the fast and smart monkeys right from my hand! It was the first time to be there for Jake, Emma, and me. We survived my luggage that got left behind in San Francisco leaving me to wear my 19 year old's clothes for a few days (no photos from those days!), the extreme humid heat, and the sudden down pour of rain that ended with a sunny sky... and loved every moment.
ALSO...
Social and Cognitive Learning Center (that's me!) turned 15 years old in August. I've been doing social skills and parenting coaching in Davis for longer, but it's been 15 years on my own. I am so grateful that many families still keep in touch with me after all these years! I truly enjoy hearing about what they are up to so please keep those updates coming.
I celebrated this birthday by launching a new group coaching program for parents, so please email me if you are interested!
Thank you for letting me share my simple joyđź’ś.
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