Sometimes it’s not just your child.
And it’s not just you either.
It’s the dynamic between the two of you.
You might notice moments like this:
- You keep asking your child to do something…and they keep resisting.
- The more you push, the more they push back or freeze.
- It can be so frustrating, like nothing is working.
In moments like that, it’s easy to focus on:
👉 “Why won’t my child just do this?”
But the more helpful question is:
👉 What is happening between us right now?
**After 21 years of being a parent, this can still be really hard for me at home.
That small shift can change how you respond.
- Not by fixing everything…
- but by helping you step out of the pattern you might both be stuck in.
- You don’t have to get it perfect.
- Just noticing it a little earlier can start to change what happens next.
We’ve been talking about this idea inside the membership this month, and it’s been a really meaningful discussion.
If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.
Pausing, slowing things down, and choosing a more intentional response can begin to help you step out of the pattern.
NORIKO'S NOTES: sharing my life's simple joys💜
It's time to celebrate!
I have officially been cancer free for 5 years!
How do I feel? I feel great and grateful. The treatments I went through in 2019-2021 (with a break in the middle) were a great wakeup call for me to be more mindful of my mental and physical health, never take having good/steady healthcare for granted, and never miss important check-ups because I feel I am too busy and "I'll do it later".
As busy parents, it is easy to put our needs last. That is what I used to do. And if I had continued, I would be telling you a different life story.
If you have any appointments, lab tests, scans, or even dental appointments you've been putting off because you’ve been busy taking care of others,
PLEASE take a moment and make that call or book it online today!!
Your family needs you to be healthy and present.
Thank you for letting me share my simple joy💜.
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Noriko Abenojar, MSW PPS
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