This month are exploring how kids build friendships through shared experiences. Each week we’ll take a step deeper.
- What Are Shared Experiences?
- Shared Experiences + Shared Emotions ---this week!
- Helping Kids Notice Shared Moments
- Turning Moments Into Friendships
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Last week, we talked about shared experiences—the small, repeatable moments where kids do something together and take the first step toward connection.
This week, let’s take that further.
Because while doing something together is a start, feeling something together is what makes that moment stick.
đź’¬ What Are Shared Emotions?
It’s when two kids feel the same emotion at the same time—and that emotional layer becomes part of the memory.
If a child can say things like:
🗣 “Remember when we laughed so hard…”
🗣 “Remember when we were both nervous…”
🗣 “Remember when we were SO excited…”
That means they’ve moved beyond the activity.
They are developing their friendship through what they felt.
When emotions are experienced together—especially joy, surprise, nervousness, or even shared awkwardness—it becomes a “sticky” memory.
This is why the 'TWINKLE IN THE EYES MOMENTS' are so valuable.
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I work VERY HARD each day to create this for kids because it is so valuable and effective.
đź’ˇ One Simple Step to Try This Week:
Create a moment where your child can share both the activity and the emotion.
🎥 Watch a funny movie together with a friend
🎉 Cheer for the same team at a game
🧩 Work through a challenge—like finishing a puzzle or LEGO build
🎉 Have a silly moment in a pretend play that makes them both laugh
➡️ These don’t have to be intense. They just need to be felt together.
đź’ś These shared emotions leave an imprint.
They help kids say,
“Not only did we do something together… we felt it together.”
And that’s the next mini-step on the path to true friendship.
đź‘€ Coming Up Next Week:
How do we help kids notice these shared moments, so they can recognize when something special is happening?
NORIKO'S NOTES: sharing my life's simple joysđź’ś
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Even after one session, I could feel the true understanding, connection, and support between all of the parents.
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The email feedback started to come in after the session ended. The overall consensus was that parents liked the education combined with discussion and that is our plan going forward for each session! I am so honored.
I have to say, that was NOT a small moment. That was a big moment towards something wonderful with this new program.
Thank you for letting me share my simple joyđź’ś.
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